Do you believe that there's a perfect mate for everyone? A soulmate, a perfect match... your dream partner. Someone who embodies every trait that you find desirable. Is that really, truly possible? A very wise man once told me that if you love someone enough, then you make it work. You embrace your differences and evolve.
I don't think there realistically can be soulmates. Think for a second of all the qualities that you look for when dating someone. I know my list is pretty eclectic (includes sword fighting, cars and a vast knowledge of music). Then, let's just say your personalities are completely in sync, and you share that same hobbies, then comes the sexual compatibility. What if you enjoy completely different things when it comes it sex? While yes, you can compromise... can either partner truly be satisfied if they are holding back in order to satisfy their partner? If one likes it rough (I'm talking REALLY rough) and the other shys away from that, how can either be satisfied? Someone can seem perfect (good personality, good looks, similar interests) but you never know what you're going to get when you delve deep into their, ahem, package. It's not like we come with ingredient labels, sometimes what you see is not always what you get.
Maybe I'm jaded. I don't have all the answers. The whole dating world is a big mystery to me.
Well we should have ingredient labels bc that would make some peoples lives so much better. I know exactly what your saying I feel as if the person i love mirrors so much of my personality but we hit a snag in certain areas. Like can you be comfortable eating around them and them not think your a cow, do you get in bed what you give and how do you come out and say pull my hair while your sucking my neck and push hard at the same time!? What if someone isnt as passionate? you cant pull passion out of someone when it isnt there! i want to scream. dating is difficult. I want to go back to december and have my nights all over again. especially the first. :( Jen you spark peoples minds.
ReplyDeletePeople really should have no inhibitions and have the complete ability to just say F it, I truly don't care what you think about me, this is how I am you don't like it too bad. That way we would be comfortable doing anything in front of people and we could speak our minds without worry.
ReplyDeletetried that, tried saying what i expect in certain situations didnt work lol
ReplyDeleteI think part of finding your soulmate is the willingness to compromise. I think they go hand in hand... that being said, there are certain things I thinnk you should never give up. If you like your hair pulled then you ought to say so ... but as far as comprmise, I've given up lot of things so my wife has a better life, and was happy to do so... and vice versa!... I think when you find your soulmate, you are willing to do anything for them. Thats what makes them your soulmate.
ReplyDeleteBut it has to be an even compromise. One partner cannot be doing all of the compromising, or it will never work. Said partner will just end up getting bitter because they are sacrificing so much of theirselves in order to please someone.
ReplyDeleteUgh, so complicated!
True Jen, But as I said, when you find your true soulmate, the perfect one for you and vice versa, you are will WANT to make that compromise... other things become less important to you so you give them up for the person that IS important, and if you have your soulmate they are doing the same thing. It's really not that complicated. When you find the right person, it all falls into place and takes care of itself, without you even noticing. So bottom line, when it's the right person (both ways) you compromise without a second thought without the other side getting bitter.
ReplyDeleteI don't believe in soulmates either. I believe there are people you're ridiculously attracted to, folks you have heat with and others that are just really, really good for you. Most of the time you just make it work despite a few flaws. Nobody's perfect, and nobody's perfectly meant for you. Maybe I'm jaded too.
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Hmmm interesting topic Jen. I think I agree with both sides here. Compromise is necessary in ANY relationship. Next, I think there is a soul mate out there, or at least someone you are intended to compromise and fit perfectly with. It's about meshing....
ReplyDeleteGood discussion here too! You are pretty good, I mean not as good as me, but good! LOL love you big sis!!